We were so delighted to have Amanda Anderson speak to us regarding friendships. She gave us some great tips on how to have, and be a friend.
Friendships are scary but they're also where we can find refined safety.
We need safe and sane friends! Safe friends are honest, willing to admit their faults, able to give and take from the relationship and are interested in personal growth.
To have safe friends, we need to BE safe friends.
1 Peter 4:8 says "Above all, love eachother deeply for love covers over a multitude of sins"
To have lasting friendships with flawed women, stop trying to figure out whose issues are worse. We must not compete with our friends. She advises us to not go into relationships wondering if you are the broken one or the fixer. Competitiveness can kill friendships and comparison will be make them sick. See each other as teachers and encouragers, instead.
Proverbs 27:17 tells us "As iron sharpens iron, so one man (or woman) sharpens another."
Pretending you have it all together makes others feel that they are falling apart...so let's get real with eachother, ladies! And we can't forget that sometimes our issues are not our personality flaws and fears but our circumstances. "Misfortune shows those who are not really friends" -Aristotle
And, please, don't compare your insides to another's outsides. Remember, intimacy is based on vulnerability and when we are vulnerable, our friendships grow deeper.
Holding a friend's hand sometimes mean that you will be held back as you hold them up, but hang in there....it's worth it! Remember also that God wants these connections for us, and Satan does not.
We all need a network of girlfriends....that's just one more reason to be thankful for M2M bringing all of us together!
You can contact Amanda at belovedcreations@att.net and her blog can be found at www.scrapsofsoul.blogspot.com
Go and be a friend to someone today!
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