TGIF friends! I hope this post finds you all excited for the weekend and full of information from our last 2 back to back meetings! I'll do a quick recap of each incase you missed anything!
Derek Carroll spoke on Erickson's Psyco-Social Development.....
There was a TON of information and a 3 page fill in! If you missed this meeting let Dayna know and we can get you a copy of all the notes. It's just too much to post! But at the end of each stage of development (besides the first) there was a question asked....
Birth - 2 years: Children learn to trust or mistrust
Age 2 - 4 years: Is it ok to be me?
Age 4 - 5 years: Is it ok for me to move, do & act?
Age 5 - 12 years: Can I succeed in a world of people & things?
Age 13 - 19 years: Who am I & what can I be?
Age 20 - 24 years: Can I love?
Age 25 - 64 years: Can I make my life count?
Age 65- Death: Is it ok to have been me?
Derek also touched a little on the topic of whining and how to try and get a handle on it. He said to ignore the sound. Focus on what you are feeling, not on the sounds your child is making. Then use a "when then" sentence such as, "When you use your big kid voice, then I'll be happy to talk to you." And actually stick to your guns. Even if that means moving to another room to be away from your child (as long as your child is safe), walking the whole house, going into the garage, etc. Then once the whining has stopped, come in with positive reinforcement. (hugs/kisses) And do not mention the whining again.
If you'd like to talk to Derek about anything that was covered or maybe an issue you are currently going through with your kiddos here's his information:
Derek Carroll, M.A.
949-338-5891
DerekCarroll@TheParentEssentials.com
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Now onto this Wednesday's meeting: Making the Most of Your Marriage with speaker Janet Hertogh.
I loved how she started her talk with the cat drawing game. Who knew a simple drawing of a cat could tell you so much about yourself! Especially the tail!
The 3 topics she covered were:
1. Going to a deeper level of communication with your spouse
2. Seeing what the Bible says about marriage
3. How to spice up your marriage
The 4 C's
Commitment- being emotionally tied to someone or something, Hebrews 13:4
Compromise- the settlement of differences, Romans 12:10
Communication- transmitting information (verbal or written), James 3:8-10, tone is 60% of what is communicated when we are speaking. Are we raising our husband's up or tearing them down?
Communion- act of sharing, 1 Corinthians 7:4
Two other points she made were hugging your husband everyday and always welcoming him home. Literally stop everything you are doing and greet him with hugs and kisses. No matter what your day was like. Get the kids to do this too!
Lastly there was the spicy stuff! Getting out of your comfort zone and spice things up!
*Some ideas were going commando on your next date night! Of course don't tell him this until dessert :)
*Get in bed before him and surprise him by being naked!
*Ask him what you can do to spice up your love life...and be ok when he answers :)
There were many more so if you missed this meeting, again ask Dayna and we can get you the list!
Janet would love to hear if you had any results from her ideas and you can contact her at:
Janjan65@hotmail.com or janethertogh@gmail.com
And is on Facebook: Janet Kawamoto Hertogh
